Melissa Opie is a life and business architect who guides female business owners to success in all areas of life. By helping her clients find clarity and self-confidence, they are able to end the cycle of desperate hustling to build the future they deserve. She specializes in working with goaldiggers and high achievers who desire killer productivity without the burnout. On the fun side of things, she is an INFP and a Capricorn. Melissa has learned, through a lifetime of ballet training, the importance of finding balance and working gracefully.

3 mistakes all new coaches make when they first start out


Whether you are a coach, have a coach, or both – it’s important to be aware of some of these common mistakes that coaches tend to make.

Here are the 3 top mistakes in under 3 minutes



Mistake #1: They don't listen enough
As a coach you are leading the session, but that doesn't mean when there is a pause that you have to fill in the silence with your words. It's important that you allow your client to gather their thoughts and continue to give you as much information as possible. There's an art to listening, and it takes practice to perfect it.

Mistake #2: They don't trust themselves enough
This can impact your coaching session severely. If you hold back from asking the important scary questions, your client will most likely not get the breakthrough they need. It's important that you practice this as the coach, so that your session is focused on the client and what they need, not about everyone feeling comfortable.

Mistake #3: They don't keep their ego in check
Remember that you are here to serve your client, not yourself. Don't act like you think a coach is supposed to act, be genuine and compassionate to the needs of your client.

Keep in mind that your clients will need to work through some things that may trigger you. If you make it about you internally, it will externally affect your relationship with your client. 
Don't let that happen.
Keep the session focused on serving your client. 

For those coaches who regularly do sales calls with potential clients, keep your prospect's needs in mind. If you don't think your service is for them, don't waste their time and your own by pressuring them into buying a coaching package. It's better in the long run to form lasting client relationships with people who will truly benefit from your unique voice.

Are you truly approaching your client from a place of service? 

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